The Truth About Guys by Chad Eastham

This book is along the same lines as For Young Women Only, but I like how it is just written by a guy for girls. Besides telling girls things they should know about guys, he has a lot of pretty hilarious random facts about guys. 


If you are having a bad day and feel unloved and horrible, he has some really sweet self-esteem boosting stuff you should read. :-) I think most girls are more likely to believe stuff that come from guys, and not only is the author of the book a guy, but he is a young, funny guy.

I really enjoyed his writing style, and it was super fun to read. I definitely recommend it! 

Book Review ~ For Young Women Only

This is one of my favorites. It gives a fresh and accurate perspective on a lot of things that girls should know about. It's basically a book all about guys for girls!

The book is based on a survey taken of young men, and it includes the results throughout. So we girls really do get the inside scoop on what is going on inside guys' heads. Some of it I already knew ( I do have three brothers), but a lot of it was really eye-opening.

I thought that the chapter on modesty was especially helpful, because guys are telling us what is hard for them. If you are struggling with your attitude regarding modesty, copy one of the quotes and put it on the wall in your closet! It's easy to think they should just get over it and we shouldn't have to have less fun because of their stupid problems, but this book really is really convicting to that attitude. They are wired differently, and we just can't fully understand the way they think.

Another thing that was really emphasized, was that guys really crave respect. We gals want to be loved, and so we assume that's what they want most too. One of the survey results showed that a much greater percentage of young men would rather be respected than loved. A lot of it can definitely help in relating to any guys, whether it's your dad, guy friends, brothers, or a fiance.

Modesty

The Bible does not tell us how short our skirts can be, how tight we should wear our shirts, or how much skin is appropriate to display. Christians have drastically different standards on how we should dress, because the Bible doesn't give us specific instructions on clothing.

However, it does have a lot to say about modesty of the heart. So obviously, God is more concerned that we have a modest heart, since wearing a loose dress that covers you neck to toe, paired with a heart that is anything but modest, is not true modesty at all.

Most Christian girls have some sort of vague personal standard for modesty. I think it is important not to force that on others, but I think that girls definitely have a place to say something to friend who is not dressing modestly (especially if brothers or other guys have mentioned that they have noticed this girl is not dressing modestly).

But it is a very touchy subject, because we don't want to offend people, but we still want to protect our brothers in Christ.

I think the two most important things to think about when dressing, is firstly, the fact that if we dress a certain way, it will make it harder for guys, and we do complain about guys being jerks, and this is a way to help them not be jerks!

And secondly, that we should be saving everything for our future husband. No young man would like his future wife to be sharing all that with every guy that walks by.